This has got to be one of the most compelling and unsettling new conspiracy theories that has emerged in the past year. It goes like this...
Large groups of the population distinctly remember certain cultural memes one way, yet a simple Google search will show they are totally different. Significant proportions of the population have false memories about mainstream cultural memes.
Some examples...Nelson Mandela died in the 1980's in prison instead of in 2013
Darth Vader did NOT say Luke, I am your father he actually said No, I am your father
Sex in the City is actually Sex and the City
Life is like a box chocolates is actually Life was like a box chocolates
The Berenstien Bears is actually The Berenstain Bears
In Field of Dreams If you build it, they will come is actually If you build it, he will come
Mirror, Mirror on the wall from Snow White is actually Magic mirror, on the wall
Interview With a Vampire is actually Interview With the Vampire
Sally Field(s)'s Oscar acceptance speech you like me you really like me was actually You like me, right now, you like me
In the assassination of JFK there was 4 people in the car, nope it was 6 actually
There's bunch of other examples of the Mandela effects...
I encourage you to go through them and I think you'll be surprised to find that you yourself have some false memories of cultural memes, old movies and brands. It's kind of creepy.
An illustrative story...
It was early fall in Kiev, I was strolling by Taras Shevchenko park when a beautiful silver Maserati caught my eye. Kiev, Ukraine oddly has the highest concentrations of high end performance luxury cars that I've seen outside of Miami or Los Angeles.
It parked just ahead of me and a muscular, middle aged driver wearing stylish athletic gear got out.
I thought to myself...
I should approach him and compliment his car.
...but of course a bunch of reasons jumped to mind why that was terrible idea.
You have no idea who the hell this guy is! In a city and a country like this with a car like that he might be a real mobster. You're just a solo tourist here. You're in no position to be taking risks! You'll probably annoy him. Just mind your own business! This is not a country where people appreciate strangers starting conversations with them. He might not even speak English.
I pushed those thoughts aside and just started walking towards the guy. I clearly unenunciated in English
Excuse me. That is a beautiful car.
(I do speak enough Russian to say this but I've learned over the course of at least a thousand cold approaches that unless you speak a language fluently, just go with English)
This is going to be little bit different than all these pieces of content about sleep hacking - the supplements, the sleep masks, the orange sunglasses, the apps - in this article I'll address a really common sleep issue that people report - which is that they can't get to sleep because they have all these thoughts running their head.
I've had an lively mind and an over active imagination for as long as I can remember; which has led me to lead a life of adventure and novelty seeking. The unfortunate downside to this is that also for almost as long I can remember I was on the insomnia spectrum; getting to sleep has always been challenge. There is always just so much to think about!
As a teenager I remember wondering what should I be thinking about to go sleep?
This was before the age when you could find a really helpful answer to that sort of question by just Googling it.
I would read these different self help type books which would say that...
Before falling asleep you should think about what you're going to do the next day or write down a challenge you're dealing with.
This really did not help my sleep as I would then spend hours tossing and turning worrying about what I was going to do the next day to overcome whatever I was dealing with.
I had also heard that you may want to repeat a mantra like
Relax... Relax... Relax...
That you want to try to "self talk" hypnotize yourself to sleep
You're going to sleep Jonathan... You're getting sleepy... You're going to sleep Jonathan...
These really did not work for me. I felt really silly repeating mantras or trying to talk myself into falling asleep and then I would get frustrated with myself.
The story of how I met the disciple of the most hated man in the world is illustrative of how to (NOT) spend money on personal development.
I had just arrived in an exotic, new (to me!) city.
I knew nobody there. I started by requesting to join the local RSD wingman Facebook group. As I've explained elsewhere my lifehack to forming intimate relationships fast is devoting my time socializing to high affinity groups with deep shared values; RSD trained pickup artists are actually one of the best such groups. In the Facebook group a cool looking local guy had posted that he was offering free introductory pickup artist bootcamps, which is like infield dating coaching. I've never taken a bootcamp but I've always been interested, if I had several thousand dollars just burning a hole in my pocket I would do a bootcamp.
He had posted a couple of indicators that he knew what he was doing, and it was a novel application of the freemium model so I thought why not? What do I have to lose?
I contacted him and made what I thought was a generous offer of buying him dinner and then we could go out at night and do the free coaching.
I thought if he turned out to be a really effective coach I might purchase one of his coaching packages, if he sucked then at least I would have explored the city some and have had a stimulating conversation over a succulent meal.
I met him and he had gravitas, swagger and style. I picked his brain about the nuances of seducing the sexy local girls. He spoke three languages fluently. We talked about meditation, fitness, Entrepreneurship Biohacking, supplementation and Colombia. Overall a pretty impressive guy.
Interestingly, he had worked directly with, at the time, the official most hated man in the world. Weirdly the most hated man in the world is not some tyrannical dictator or murderous narco boss but was a douchebaggey pickup artist guru that had pissed off a bunch of feminists and the politically correct main stream media. My new friend had coached with him and had the photos to prove it. He really emphasized how much of an influence this guy was on him.
All the other self help gurus in your inbox are talking about 2017. I'll suggest that today at least, you think more about 2021...
Create a 5 Year Self Determination Flowchart
It's well said that we often over estimate what we can achieve in a year and underestimate what we can achieve in 5 years.
In 1 year it's likely you'll be pretty similar to what you are right now.
It's also kind of hard to say what your life will be like in 10 years, some people's lives radically change for the better or worse in 10 years.
However, in half that time your life will likely still have significant resemblance to what it is now.
I would like you to make optimistic predictions about what your life could look like in 5 years in these areas...
Business or Career
Education and Learning
Family and Friends
Health and Fitness
Relationships & Sex
Travel & Adventure
Where will you live?
What would an average day or week look like?
I want you to strike a balance between your wildest fantasies and a reasonable prediction of how you will be living if you practice your best habits with discipline. Look at your Coach.me dashboard and imagine those habits multiplied by 1800 (5 years).
I had a classic ADHD childhood, I had boundless energy that I channeled into serial passion projects; dinosaurs, aviation, World War 2 history, designing space ships, creating amateur action movies, writing science fiction stories, Tae Kwon Do, swordsmanship, Karate, breakdancing and even studying Islam for a little while. Perpetually a starter, rarely a finisher. The only thing consistent was my bad grades. I was moved from Special Ed program to Special Ed program. I lacked social calibration though I constantly tried to ingratiate myself with the most elite social group I could find. I was constantly trying to upgrade my social circle, but I didn't have what it took to be one of the cool kids, and frequently found myself an outsider and a loner.
I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 8, and given Ritalin, it helped a lot. Without it, a younger version of myself found it nearly impossible to focus for more than 5 minutes on the lessons and educational material being presented by my grade school teachers.
In an age when ADHD (back then they called it ADD) was misdiagnosed and the pharmaceutical solutions were overdosed, I think I was a legitimate case. In high school I switched to Adderall, which seemed to imbue a longer lasting focus, along with a more relaxed and tranquil mindset. I wasn't in such a hurry to impress people, which helped me make more genuine friendships
My medication is probably one of the main factors that allowed me to attain a Black Belt in Tae Kwon Do and actually graduate high school.
As a young adult, I was very ambitious and a voracious student of success, yet I had a nearly 5 year streak of none stop career failures. I had been fired more times than I can count on two hands; I just couldn't quiet cut it as a waiter, car salesman, a mortgage broker, a banker or in Yellow Pages sales. I had a lot trouble paying my bills on time, I was constantly late on rent, I even managed to get in some real legal trouble over some unpaid speeding tickets. While my social life was a whole lot more lively (thanks partially to my side gig as nightclub promoter), my dating life was inconsistent and I could not hold on to a girlfriend. I would occasionally get my hands on a bottle of Adderall, which seemed to make quiet a difference in my performance at work, but crushing personal and career disappointments were always just around the corner.
I was constantly reading inspirational books and trying to apply what they said about business ethics and providing value but it never paid off. I was perpetually a minute late and a dollar short; late to work, late to meetings, late on rent, not hitting sales quotas. While I was building a large social circle and social media friend count through my nightclub promotion, the relationships were quiet shallow. Also, being a nightclub promoter, I was hungover and under slept half the time which took a toll on my real career in corporate America. I was having fun and learning a lot but my prospects for the future were pretty bleak. My mediocre career and personal life was a case study of lack of focus, follow through and my equivocations of standards in every domain of life.
Fast forward to today and at 30 years old I'm really a different person; I'm one of the most disciplined and consistent people I know. I'm a long term strategist, not a short term opportunist. I'm more focused and motivated than I've ever been. I have developed a work ethic that's pretty rare in my generation. My fleeting obsession with passion projects has been replaced with a long term commitment to processes. I've really cured my adult ADHD.
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