So I'm not any kind of dating guru or pickup artist but I've figured out how to get about 4-6 new friend requests a week from single, attractive women on Facebook. I don't have go to bars, join dating websites or post craigslist personals, Facebook conveniently delivers me fresh prospects on almost a daily basis. Here's howAdd a comment
The traveler's trail is a boulevard of tragic stories of lost iPhones, Android Devices that (like in their clever commercials) grew legs and ran away, pilfered ergonomic earphones, stolen laptops, absentee underwear and most seriously, misplaced passports. Losing your stuff while traveling sucks, not only because of inconvenience, the stress, the replacement costs but more importantly because of the time it takes that could be spent enjoying travel, doing cool things and connecting with interesting people. This article will present some bizarre memory systems, life hacks and uncommon yet practical solutions for not losing your valuable stuff while traveling.
Consistency of Placement
The most common sense (yet uncommonly practiced) solution to not losing your stuff is this simple: keep your things in the same place. One of the biggest reasons people lose things, temporarily and permanently, is that they leave them in new places because of convenience or absentmindedness. You are rushing to meet friends for dinner so you leave your shaver in the hostel bathroom or you are exhausted after a long flight so you fall asleep with your laptop on your bed. Resist this temptation, and create a system for keeping your stuff in the same place.
Here's a few practical examples:
Society puts smart people on quite a lofty pedestal but there's some real downsides to being highly intelligent. You're on this website because you were either born a smart person (which as you will see by the end of this article is actually not such a lucky roll of the genetic dice) or on your way to becoming a very smart person. Whether you're part of the club already or still (like me!) paying your dues there's some things that really suck about being smart.
You will understand some of the vexing problems that you have, up to this point in your life, failed to beat with your smarts and intellectual resources. For each problem we identify solutions; both actionable behaviors to change and deeper mindsets to internalize.
Do you know anyone that when you talk to them you feel like a young Jedi getting advice advice from Yoda? I do. His name is Dr. Mark Ashton Smith. Dr. Smith runs a cognitive psychology lab at the University of Cyprus, is a lecturer at Cambridge University and is the creator of the brain training software Dual N-Back Pro. He's one of the most insightful, well spoken and charming people I know. We had a +1 hour conversation about smart people problems in Podcast #26, give it a download!
Highly intelligent people usually have less sex, especially when they are younger. I totally used too fit into this stereotype...
I lost my virginity to spy. Here's the story...
At age 20 I had a great social life and lots of friends who were girls but I was a virgin and I badly wanted to change that. I met her on the dancefloor at a foam party (classy... I know!). She had an exotic, uhm, black woman's name.
The girl I met a midst the suds aggressively thrust me into her social group. We started going out together once or twice a week, as friends. One night we jokingly agreed to be each other's PLAN B in case we didn't hook up with strangers at the party we were going too (again, classy, I know!). Before I dropped her off I announced that I needed a glass of water from her apartment. I left about 3 hours later devirginized. When we had first met she mentioned she had studied criminal justice. I found out a year later that her secretarial office job was a cover for her job as spy. She worked for the State of Colorado and was investigating her employer for financial fraud. As she grew to trust me she confided various details of her undercover assignments. Eventually she quit after witnessing a recently deceased coworker - there's no way I would share this via my blog if she was still a spy. She was a good friend.
Unfortunately the stereotype of the sexually frustrated nerd who hasn't been laid in 6 months is pretty accurate, especially in younger people as documented in a Journal of Adolescent Health paper. I'm not just talking about smart guys either, there's is a strong correlation between lower birthrate and women of higher education and IQ. Smart people's tendency to over analyze probably has a lot to do with this problem, we are more often doing cost-benefit analysis, second guessing decisions and trying to make predictions about our future relationships when we should probably be thinking with our loins instead of our neocortexes.
On the Bright Side: General Survey Data from the United States suggests that richer, more educated people enjoy sex more.
The Solution: The activities that get you laid; dating, courtship and lovemaking really are skill sets that need to be developed with study, coaching, practice and repetition. Three really excellent, ethical resources I've found for these areas are the The Art of Charm Podcast and Daygame. A Mindmiester flowchart is a great tool for purposeful lifestyle design.Add a comment