2017 Update: I've spent the past 5 years doing lifestyle design experiments, trying to systematize and build habits to minimize the idiosyncrasies and insecurities that arise from my intellect. I've done a pretty good job of beating the smart people problems. I put together a Lifestyle Plan flowchart which visually breaks it down, it's a peek into some of the wacky, unconventionally yet seriously effective lifestyle strategies that empower the pretty awesome life I have, get it here...
Society puts smart people on quite a lofty pedestal but there's some real downsides to being highly intelligent. You're on this website because you were either born a smart person (which as you will see by the end of this article is actually not such a lucky roll of the genetic dice) or on your way to becoming a very smart person. Whether you're part of the club already or still (like me!) paying your dues there's some things that really suck about being smart.
By the End of this Article...
You will understand some of the vexing problems that you have, up to this point in your life, failed to beat with your smarts and intellectual resources. For each problem we identify solutions; both actionable behaviors to change and deeper mindsets to internalize.
Do you know anyone that when you talk to them you feel like a young Jedi getting advice advice from Yoda? I do. His name is Dr. Mark Ashton Smith. Dr. Smith runs a cognitive psychology lab at the University of Cyprus, is a lecturer at Cambridge University and is the creator of the brain training software Dual N-Back Pro. He's one of the most insightful, well spoken and charming people I know. We had a +1 hour conversation about smart people problems in Podcast #26, give it a download!
Getting Laid Less
Highly intelligent people usually have less sex, especially when they are younger. I totally used too fit into this stereotype...
I lost my virginity to spy. Here's the story...
At age 20 I had a great social life and lots of friends who were girls but I was a virgin and I badly wanted to change that. I met her on the dancefloor at a foam party (classy... I know!). She had an exotic, uhm, black woman's name.
The girl I met a midst the suds aggressively thrust me into her social group. We started going out together once or twice a week, as friends. One night we jokingly agreed to be each other's PLAN B in case we didn't hook up with strangers at the party we were going too (again, classy, I know!). Before I dropped her off I announced that I needed a glass of water from her apartment. I left about 3 hours later devirginized. When we had first met she mentioned she had studied criminal justice. I found out a year later that her secretarial office job was a cover for her job as spy. She worked for the State of Colorado and was investigating her employer for financial fraud. As she grew to trust me she confided various details of her undercover assignments. Eventually she quit after witnessing a recently deceased coworker - there's no way I would share this via my blog if she was still a spy. She was a good friend.
Unfortunately the stereotype of the sexually frustrated nerd who hasn't been laid in 6 months is pretty accurate, especially in younger people as documented in a Journal of Adolescent Health paper. I'm not just talking about smart guys either, there's is a strong correlation between lower birthrate and women of higher education and IQ. Smart people's tendency to over analyze probably has a lot to do with this problem, we are more often doing cost-benefit analysis, second guessing decisions and trying to make predictions about our future relationships when we should probably be thinking with our loins instead of our neocortexes.
The Solution: The activities that get you laid; dating, courtship and lovemaking really are skill sets that need to be developed with study, coaching, practice and repetition. Three really excellent, ethical resources I've found for these areas are the The Art of Charm Podcast and Daygame. A Mindmiester flowchart is a great tool for purposeful lifestyle design.
One of best premium features of Skype is the ability to call normal cell and land lines via VOIP. The convenience of this is equally matched by the frustration you will experience when you try to 3 way call multiple phones numbers from Skype.
As far as I can tell it's impossible, this is probably a business decision by Skype to protect it's other premium service offering of 3 way calling to other people with Skype accounts. Here's a nifty life hack around this.
There's a couple serious information consumption problems with reading blogs and online articles, no matter how informative, engaging or actionable the content is:
You will be working online and stumble upon an article that you know is going to be worth reading, but you don't want to stop working on your current task.
Distraction factors are huge; the temptation to check email or social media accounts.
A lot of times you will read half an article, get distracted by something and never return to finish the article.
If you want to reference information in that article later, you have to go back and find it.
If you're like me you have a million bookmarks in your web browser, if you bookmark yet another blog or article to read, all that does is ensure it's going to be lost in the avalanche of bookmarks.
If you're a hustler-geek like me a lot of times you like to read work or business related articles at the end of the day to let the knowledge marinate into your mind as you relax.
Reading on your computer screen is bad for your eyes, especially at night, which is when you are probably doing most of your reading if you follow proper information consumption practices.
The Solution: An Evernote 'Stuff to Read' Notebook The free and AWESOME tool, Evernote, synchronizes notes between your web browser, devices and smart phones beautifully. This makes saving articles for future information consumption super easy.
Of the many thousands of people who have posted online their experiences with Nootropics, the vast majority are overwhelmingly positive. People report feeling amazing and are significantly more productive. However, there are a few negatives you should be aware of before dabbling with the seductive world of smart drugs.
Have you ever had the experience of being unknowingly recorded? Many people find it downright horrifying the first time they watch or hear a recording of themselves.
The Problem: A lot of us have unattractive (or just plain sloppy) body language or auditory communication habits that we aren't aware of. These habits really hold us back from becoming the best versions of ourselves.
Unless you have the time, money or inclination to take acting classes or a social dynamics bootcamp it's pretty difficult to identify weaknesses that could be doing damage to your communication 'game', be it in personal or business situations.
The best 'pick up line' to begin an interesting conversation Line: Pardon me. Do you mind if get your opinion on something...? Follow this up with an engaging question, here's a few I like • Can you recommend any unique cocktails here? • Do you know this town well? Can you recommend a restaurant/bar, etc? • Where did you buy that clothing item/accessory/cell phone? • What do you think of this event?
Whether you are looking to rent an apartment, buy a home or acquire a commercial property chances are you can find it on Craigslist. However the search function of Craigslist is stuck in 90's, it's time consuming and cumbersome to find what you are looking for. Use this life hack to setup an iGoogle dashboard that will feed you exactly the kinds of property you are looking for instantaneously.
If you are right handed and have your mouse on the right side of your computer move it to the left and force yourself to use your non-dominant hand (or vice versa) for an hour a day. At first it will be very awkward and uncomfortable but practice for just one hour a day and you will greatly strengthen the bridge between the right and left sides of your brain.
When you consume a piece of particularly valuable information use a memory trigger to make sure you that information is benefiting you at some point in the future.
Sometime within the next month you are going to be having a conversation with someone about blogging and you are going to use the phrase information equity(it’s going to make you seem really smart & progressive). Here’s the memory trigger you are going to use.
Memory Trigger: the word blog
Association Stream: every time you hear the word blog think blah> Then imagine a person’s mouth making an ‘O’ shape as they say blah-blah-blah >Now imagine a fraction sign inside their mouth (which is making a zero shape) >That zero represents the amount of information equity their blogging creates.
Reinforce the mental association: Mentally say the word blog, then mentally yell at yourself BLAH! BLAH! BLAH!(while visualizing the mouth). Do this 3 times (should take about 30 seconds)
Initially forming these memory triggers will feel a little odd and will take some mental energy and creativity but as you do them for often it will become natural and automatic.
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